The
example expression of gaining attention:
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Attention please
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May, I have your attention, please?
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Excuse me look here!
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Listening to me, please
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Waiter?
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I’m sorry but I will go
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Wow really?
Giving attention, use
simpe present tense
And we give
attention or affection to people.
Example of giving
attention:
- Are you alright/o.k?
- What’s wrong with you?
- Do you?
- Really?
- Are you?
- Did he?
- Can I help you?
This is about giving attention
I’ve been thinking a lot about giving recently. In other words, I’ve been experiencing how the simple giving of our attention—not of gifts or any other highly coveted thing, but of our own undivided open-eared presence—is perhaps THE ultimate act of generosity. Our attention is indeed a powerful show of selflessness, whether we’ve given it wholly to a pet, a loved one, a colleague, or someone we barely know.
My husband and I have just returned from a holiday together without the kids. I realized while we were away that one of the most special and important things in any relationship is in providing one’s complete attention to whatever another is going through or needing to articulate. I seriously think that most of us are starved of this very basic, very poignant experience from day to day: the experience of giving (and receiving) full and supportive attention.
How about you? Do you feel you give conscious, affectionate attention to yourself and others on a regular basis?
We have all heard the adage that giving is the greatest gift of all. I would like to expand on this by saying that the giving of our true, bright, and open attention is the greatest gift.
Close your eyes for a minute and breathe life into the feeling of allowing all your crazy-making, inane, and endless loops of thought to fall away. Yes, that’s right. Clear away the debris that is keeping you from giving yourself over to the intensity and wonder of the moment at hand. This alone is oh so sweet!
Now imagine giving this same attention to your partner in love or work, to your super-needy friend, your kids, or whomever else you brush up against. What happens to us when we fall into these states of generous spirit is enormously profound. And, it doesn’t cost a thing.
I entreat you: Next time you’re feeling like a selfish me-obsessed slouch, instead of thinking the only way to give or undo your egotism is by reaching for your checkbook, or going to a charitable event, or starting a foundation, think first of your own way of being right here, right now. Think of you in the very moment, by the very minute, in the smallest of daily exchanges. Please by all means go do the other stuff too! But also deeply commit to giving your attention, to offering yourself in a willing, welcoming, open-armed stance, instant by instant by instant.
I guess in truth we might simply call this magnanimous and beaming flow of attention love. When we get right down to it, isn’t that what full-on giving is essentially made of?
In sweetness, selflessness, and love,
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